04 Sep STORY TEAM: HARMONY, DISHARMONY AND DYNAMIC BALANCE… PART I
We all live in a state of DYNAMIC BALANCE. This means that today’s SPEED OF CHANGE is the “NEW NORMAL”. With this basic fact of life, comes the inherent challenge to either “dance” with the change, in a way that requires our increasing awareness, ability and control, or shut ourselves down, resist and “dig in” to a more secure, safe and restricted lifestyle and mindstyle.
The INNERTAINMENT approach to self development and DYNAMIC BALANCE embraces the metaphor of the theater and offers a STORY TEAM approach to creating higher levels of well being.
Our INNER ACTORS begin their journey from childhood, as reactive roles that help us cope with the changing world around us. Because our higher developmental skills are not yet in place, this happens at an automatic and unconscious level. We fulfill our need for control and power by using the parts of ourselves that get us through the challenges of early development. For example, a two or three year old may become RE-ACTIVE to the inner drivers of her behavior, in passive ways, or by using a temper tantrum that can trigger mom into paying attention very quickly. These unconscious patterns of behavior may be eliminated over time with more maturity, but the remnants of the ACTION-RE-ACTION response of the caregiver is still part of what the personality part is learning. Whether the RE-ACTIVE patterns are positive or negative, they can be converted into other means of POWER and control over time.
In a different scenario, and at a different developmental level, a child could learn to gain control of their environment by becoming comical and funny as a way of pleasing the parent.The “joker” part of the personality may be reinforced over time an become a relatively stable INNER ACTOR.
The MAIN point to make about our INNER ACTORS or personality parts, is that they are formed in ways that are re-active and unconscious, in order to navigate the needs and wants of our reality as best as we can at the time.
The IMPLICATION for the INNER ACTOR member of the STORY TEAM is important, especially when it comes to understanding its role in maintaining our DYNAMIC BALANCE and in supporting our future development.
When TRADEOFFS and PATTERNS develop over time, while remaining OUT of our awareness in the BACK STAGE, they can either support our future or prevent its full development. Because our INNER ACTORS are RE-ACTIVE, not proactive, it’s important to understand the role they play in our future well being. This becomes possible when we develop the necessary curiosity and commitment to explore our INNER ACTOR patterns in maintaining our DYNAMIC BALANCE.
FOCUS ON ONE INNER ACTOR, EITHER POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE, THAT PLAYS AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN YOUR DYNAMIC BALANCE. DO YOU REMEMBER HOW THIS PART OF YOUR PERSONALITY WAS FORMED TO SUPPORT AND CONTROL YOUR WORLD AT THE TIME? HOW HAS IT CONTINUED TO BE PART OF YOUR PERSONALITY?